Friday, February 13, 2009

Life With An 8 Year Old Girl And Her Step-Father

The story starts with me, divorcing the father of my oldest daughter. She is 8 yrs. soon to be 9. We divorced when she was 5.

I met my current husband and married shortly there after. I know many may think this was a horrible thing to do, but it is what it is.

My husband is a very loving, thoughtful person, who adores my daughter. My daughter adores her father, and step father.

There are times though that she just doesn't think. When she leaves to go with my ex, recently, she has not been saying good bye to her step dad.

I don't know what to make of this. Is she just excited to get back with her dad, and doesn't mean it. Or is she purposely neglecting her step dad?

My first guess is, she is an 8 year old who doesn't use her head for anything except her school work, and her PS2. But that doesn't take away the fact that it hurts her step dad.

What do you guys think?


Shirley Anderson said...

The first two things that came to mind as possibilities when I read this post were that either you're right about your daughter being excited to see her dad, or she thinks she's betraying her dad if she seems too friendly to her step-dad when the real one's around. Or both.

Sorry, that probably doesn't help.

Good luck, I'm sure you'll figure it out.